Sometimes it can help to remember why you want to overcome shyness. A gentle reminder of why it is worth persevering even when it’s hard. I have two motivating factors that are substantially bigger than all the rest. They are:
- 1. My children.
- 2. My life purpose.
Both my motivating factors are interconnected since I consider raising my children as part of my life purpose. But in the past knowing that I was working this shyness stuff out now, to prevent it rubbing off on my future children was very motivating. Because I know how hard dealing with shyness can be, and equally how challenging it can be to overcome – I wanted to do what I could to prevent any of my kids from having to deal with it also.
Life purpose as a motivator.
I have encounter people who find the idea of a life purpose to be ‘wishy-washy’ and other who suggested that life is its own reward. But for me the idea of a life purpose is very motivating. Once I understood what my life purpose was, I started to work out the steps I would need to take. One of the challenges has been that if I am shy, then fulfilling this purpose is very hard, if not impossible.
If, like me, your life purpose requires social interaction, then clearly, overcoming shyness is important. Keeping this in mind can be powerful motivator. Am I going to let shyness stand in my way?!? Not a chance!!
Your reasons for wanting to overcome shyness don’t have to be quite as dramatic as that; simply wanting to feel more comfortable in social settings is a perfect reason and motivator. The key is to know why you want to overcome shyness – let this be your driving factor, let it be the thought that helps you stay at that party for 20 extra minutes.
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